You know carries this and I just discovered that Sephora's gives samples of their products. That would have helped you alot. I have a sample of the leave in but I don't think I will buy it either because it has cones. Lots of them.
I got this with my sample pack also. I didn't like it at first smell but then used it again and now I think I like it. Don't really know what it does for my hair. I really don't know if it is making it soft or not. Just didn't notice anything but the scent for me.